ABEOKUTA– The founder of a Non-Governmental Organisation, Hope For New Life, Bolatito Ade-Onajobi has launched a book, ‘Tenets for a Successful Marriage’, in Abeokuta, the Ogun state capital.
The fourteen chapter book aimed at addressing matrimonial issues was reviewed by a prolific writer and author Abiodun Lasile at the well attended launch on Saturday
Speaking at the event, the Ijesa born author hinged her sojourn into writing of the book as divine, citing several cases of crash marriages as the burden to address the menace.
She however expressed optimism that the book will bring back the lost glory of marriages in the country.
“God ordains marriage, the way you accept it determines your future, whether you will enjoy it or endure it. Marriage is an unknown journey, you know the beginning, but you don’t know the end. A lot of things may and would happen, but one should always put their trust in God”, she said
Ade-Onojobi pointed out that marriage is very important integrity, stressing that truthfulness and honesty in relationship will build good home, adding that there is need for couple to value each other
“Integrity is the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles and state of being wholesome. The two of you should have integrity, without integrity, you can’t have feelings for each other. You will be united if both of you have integrity. Lack of compassion causes a problem in marriage.
“It takes two together to tango to become husband and wife. One leg cannot take you anywhere, two legs would take you there. It means God wants double things. A marriage that works is when both of you can think together, listen to each other and honour yourselves. Honesty will be the soul of the home”, she added
Chapters in the book includes, ‘God’s plan for marriage, beginning of love, getting into marriage, importance of the word of God, importance of wisdom in marriage, role of deceit and deceptive in the house
The other chapters are: ‘importance of finance in marriage, role of sex in marriage, modelling the destiny of your children, importance of prayer in marriage, conflicts and resolution in marriage, distractions in marriage, effect of house helps in the family and problem of childless couples.
Meanwhile, the reviewer in his remark noted that the contents of the book were full of inspiration, adding that everythin.g about it is God and marriage, stressing that the importance of the book was addressing marriage, and to avoid failed marriage
He commended the author at her ripe age, to still have time in putting pen on paper to write a 100 page book, and expressed excitement on how the author was able to translate the word ‘CLEAVE’, used in the Bible to meaningful meaning for couples, which stated thus’ Communication, Love, Endurance, Adjustment, Voluntary Service, Excellent Maintenance Services (CLEAVE)
Awards were bestowed on some individuals at the ceremony for their contributions to developmental growth in the society, and they include: Iyalode of Yorubaland, Iyalode Alaba Lawson, Olori(Dr) Salamat Ajede, and Elder Lagunju Dipe
The other awardees are: His Royal Highness AbdulWaidi Sadiku, Akintayo Akinpelu, Elder Samuel Obe, Mrs Olufunmilayo Olatunji, Chief(Mrs) Afolasade Kokumo, Mrs Kikelomo Oniga and Prince Adegboyega Adebisi
